Just out of curiosity

When I come upon memories (like letters or photographs - or old blog posts) of relationships past, I

	delete or destroy them and try not to think about them again
	put them in some archive in case I ever want to see them again but where I won't stumble upon them accidentally
	Leave them alongside the other records of that time because they're just as much a part of my life as the non-romantic things
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My view is that they're all part of who you are, and no matter how things ended (and, by definition, they're from relationships that didn't work), you've still got positive memories from that time that are worth preserving. Otherwise, what - you'll have huge gaps in your life you can never really think about? Is that really healthy?

Previously I've been convinced to destroy old photographs and letters, and I regret that now. You only have one opportunity to live each one of those years; things not having worked out with the person you were with then is hardly a reason to obliterate all memory of it.

At least, that's my approach. I know others (mainly older people) who think that the only way to show loyalty to your partner is to pretend as much as possible that you never loved another, but I think that's a fairly sad, dishonest and cowardly way to live out your days.

I'm curious as to what others - those who weren't lucky enough to find the love of their life first up*, that is - think on the subject.

*And you guys have your own issues.

NOTE: Before anyone thinks I'm "having a go" at them - this is an entirely neutral post about various views that I've either held or heard expressed by others, because I'm curious as to how other people feel about the issue. Just because I have certain general impressions about a particular view doesn't mean I have those opinions about people who hold it.